Internet dating can conjure up all sorts of images for people. We’ve all heard the success stories– someone logs on and before long they’ve met their soul mate online, but talk to someone else, and you hear horror stories about dates gone wrong or worse. The truth is probably somewhere in between. With some caution and forethought, an online profile can open up a world of dating possibilities, and by being proactive and not waiting for things to happen, you increase the chances that you will meet someone and connect on a deeper level. Dating, like life, is a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the greater your chances.

Laurie Davis, founder of eFlirt Expert (, is an online dating consultant who has operated the climate of internet dating since she was nineteen years old, and in her tenure, has faced almost every situation imaginable. Her book, Love at First Click, (Atria, 2013), offers a step by step handbook for setting up your online dating profile and tips for everyone from the “eFlirt Virgin,” to the more seasoned veterans of wireless romance. She writes, “ …everyone is plugged in and it’s no longer something to be ashamed of.  In fact, one in five relationships begin on an online dating site.”

Ms. Davis offers practical advice such as to “put your money where your mouth is,” and commit to at least three months on a given site to give yourself time to set up your profile and to adjust to being “outside your comfort zone.” She also offers the “two site rule,” writing, “you should always have active profiles on at least two sites,” thus allowing you to widen the range of possible matches, and to get your profile attention in front of more than one community. Davis encourages her readers to not rely on “winks”, or other more passive attempts at initiating contact, and instead, go for the gusto and send an email. She walks the reader through the entire process of composing the perfectly worded missive to sound flirty enough without looking like you are trying too hard.

I encourage you to take a chance, pick up a helpful book like Laurie Davis’ Love at First Click, or go the distance and set up an appointment with me for a consultation about how to get started opening your dating possibilities to the ever growing world of online dating. At the very least, you will have an opportunity to hone your dating skills and practice meeting new people while letting your best self shine